We’re one week away from the big turkey day — the American holiday of food, family, and football. We cook, eat, sleep, and maybe go around the table to name one thing we are thankful for.
Lots of us are going to travel — across town or across the country — to be at the dinner table with family and friends. For most of my life, a holiday dinner was the only time of the year when multiple families gathered in one place.
And it has almost always been a mixed bag. Cozy sweaters, delicious food, hot beverages, a little extra wine, and a ton of pretending and pressure.
Be nice. Don’t make waves. Smile. Only say good things about yourself. Don’t let people know that you’re struggling. Only talk about positive things. Eat pie and watch football, even if you want neither.
And, for fuck’s sake, don’t get political! Don't mention the genocide at the dinner table.
Not only is this debilitating, it was a reason for more than a decade that I avoided going to home for the holidays. I just can’t deal with this fakery.
So, I’m calling for an Honest Thanks.
For you and me and the society we want.
If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know that I really value gratitude and praise. Praise is so important it is one of the 5 Pleasure Principles to liberating your desire and designing a life of sensational sex and epic love.
Praise is not just a simple “thanks” or “good job.”
It is a pathway to change our consciousness, to deepen our connections, to shift our emotional landscape into calm or joy, to find common ground, and to restore trust in our relationships.