This series has been cancelled for March 10 & 11
due to low advance ticket sales.
Fuck Like a Feminist: Three Workshop Series
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Fucking is not just what you do with your genitals or hips or lips. Great fucking combines advocating for your pleasure and desires, being in tune with yourself and partner(s), feeling connected and confident, and having fun!
Getting to the best parts of sex and fucking, requires us to be responsible for ourselves -- our bodies, pleasure, communications, power, actions, requests, and general energy -- in all our moments before sex starts, so that we can have the best experience possible. Your hosts, somatic sex coach Eva Blake and author and consent activist Kitty Stryker are unpacking 3 areas of relational skills that you need to know if you have any kind of relationship with anyone, and especially if you want to get freaky, romantic, or intimate with them. |
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Over two days, we will show you how to apologize after you’ve fucked up, how to read the messages of consent, and how to touch for connection and pleasure.
We approach this work with these beliefs:
The practice here is creating healthy relationships in all parts of our lives. To do that we must be aware of and address the inherent power dynamics and social hierarchy in our interactions in order to fulfill the fundamental beliefs named above.
These are life long practices and learnable skills.
We approach this work with these beliefs:
- Every person has a right to bodily autonomy
- Every person is entitled to clear and consensual interactions
- Every person is entitled to live free from violence
- Every person deserves pleasure and consideration
The practice here is creating healthy relationships in all parts of our lives. To do that we must be aware of and address the inherent power dynamics and social hierarchy in our interactions in order to fulfill the fundamental beliefs named above.
These are life long practices and learnable skills.
How to Apologize
Saturday, March 10, 1- 4 pm
We give apologies when we make mistakes or cause harm. Most apologies express regret or remorse for the behavior that created the harm.
Mistakes, hurt, and conflict are inevitable moments of human relationships, because we all make mistakes. We have all hurt someone in the past and probably will in the future. So, knowing how to apologize is crucial.
Bu in the era of #metoo and terrible non apologies, we need to understand what it really looks like to be accountable in your apology.
Accountability is acknowledging your responsibility for your behaviors. That means knowing, naming, owning, and reckoning with how you impact the people around you. It is FUNDAMENTAL to creating and sustaining meaningful and fulfilling relationships in your life, whether those are single night encounters or life-long connections, romantic or familial, in community or workplaces, and especially in leadership.
Apologizing is a nuanced, multi-step process that you can do well, and truly repair the damage of your actions (whether intentional or not) and restore the trust and safety in your relating.
Or, the things you say to apologize can further alienate the person you are speaking to, increase anxiety, mistrust, and fear in the relationship and cause further harm.
What do you want to do? Repair or Re-Harm?
Our practice here is to understand how to name harm succinctly and explicitly, how to center the person harmed, maintain curiosity and awareness of how our interactions live in the context of a social hierarchy of privilege and power, and where exactly is the place for you to talk about what was happening for you.
I’m gonna break it down for you, step by step, so you can do apologies and accountability well. We’re going to examine non-apologies and bad apologies and better apologies.
You will practice live in the workshop and get real time feedback to help you do better.
You will also have clearly written material to take home and practice with all the people in your life.
Saturday, March 10, 1- 4 pm
We give apologies when we make mistakes or cause harm. Most apologies express regret or remorse for the behavior that created the harm.
Mistakes, hurt, and conflict are inevitable moments of human relationships, because we all make mistakes. We have all hurt someone in the past and probably will in the future. So, knowing how to apologize is crucial.
Bu in the era of #metoo and terrible non apologies, we need to understand what it really looks like to be accountable in your apology.
Accountability is acknowledging your responsibility for your behaviors. That means knowing, naming, owning, and reckoning with how you impact the people around you. It is FUNDAMENTAL to creating and sustaining meaningful and fulfilling relationships in your life, whether those are single night encounters or life-long connections, romantic or familial, in community or workplaces, and especially in leadership.
Apologizing is a nuanced, multi-step process that you can do well, and truly repair the damage of your actions (whether intentional or not) and restore the trust and safety in your relating.
Or, the things you say to apologize can further alienate the person you are speaking to, increase anxiety, mistrust, and fear in the relationship and cause further harm.
What do you want to do? Repair or Re-Harm?
Our practice here is to understand how to name harm succinctly and explicitly, how to center the person harmed, maintain curiosity and awareness of how our interactions live in the context of a social hierarchy of privilege and power, and where exactly is the place for you to talk about what was happening for you.
I’m gonna break it down for you, step by step, so you can do apologies and accountability well. We’re going to examine non-apologies and bad apologies and better apologies.
You will practice live in the workshop and get real time feedback to help you do better.
You will also have clearly written material to take home and practice with all the people in your life.
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Cultivating Consent
Saturday, March 10, 4:30 - 7:30pm Featuring consent activist and author of Ask: Building Consent Culture, Kitty Stryker, Cultivating Consent will define consent through the lens of power, intimate physical or sexual interactions, and what living in a consent culture can look and feel like. We will examine the space around and between verbal and nonverbal communications, Specifically, you’ll see a series of media clips, ranging from sitcom to pornography to dissect the scenes and the messages you see being sent about the culture, expression, and presumptions of consent. We will give detailed content information as to the timing of clips, the content, and the opportunity to opt out of viewing. |
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Exquisite Touch,
Sunday, March 11, 1 - 4pm
Great Fucking, for many, includes feeling overwhelmed with sensations on skin and body. But many, many people say they get so distracted in the moment of sexual intimacy that they don’t know what to do, where to focus, or how to let go into the pleasure. Others say that the sex is “fine,” but that it doesn’t even really matter if they are present for it or not, but they do it out of duty. This is not the recipe for exceptional sex.
In this 3 hour mini-training, Eva Blake will guide you through the basics of conscious touch —how to use your hands, how to feel into the touch, and how to talk about the touch — that enhances connection, consent, curiosity, and pleasure.
In this workshop, you will practice touching without pressure, taking responsibility for your pleasure, setting your boundaries and pace, advocating for your desires, and listening with all your senses.
This is a “go slow” class, in that Eva slows down interactions to help her clients understand the component parts in order to have more self awareness and power to direct their experience and advocate for their pleasure.
This is a clothing ON embodiment and sensate focus practice class with solo and partner touch. You can bring a partner or experiment with another participant. All touch exercises are NON-sexual.
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Sunday, March 11, 1 - 4pm
Great Fucking, for many, includes feeling overwhelmed with sensations on skin and body. But many, many people say they get so distracted in the moment of sexual intimacy that they don’t know what to do, where to focus, or how to let go into the pleasure. Others say that the sex is “fine,” but that it doesn’t even really matter if they are present for it or not, but they do it out of duty. This is not the recipe for exceptional sex.
In this 3 hour mini-training, Eva Blake will guide you through the basics of conscious touch —how to use your hands, how to feel into the touch, and how to talk about the touch — that enhances connection, consent, curiosity, and pleasure.
In this workshop, you will practice touching without pressure, taking responsibility for your pleasure, setting your boundaries and pace, advocating for your desires, and listening with all your senses.
This is a “go slow” class, in that Eva slows down interactions to help her clients understand the component parts in order to have more self awareness and power to direct their experience and advocate for their pleasure.
This is a clothing ON embodiment and sensate focus practice class with solo and partner touch. You can bring a partner or experiment with another participant. All touch exercises are NON-sexual.
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We invite you attend all three workshops to get the most from the weekend.
Each 3 hour workshop is $45 or $105 for all three.
We want to make these classes and opportunities available to many people. Your advance ticket purchase will support us to make this possible.
We do have some scholarships available! Please send a note to Eva telling her which class you want to attend.
Get Your Tickets Below.
Each 3 hour workshop is $45 or $105 for all three.
We want to make these classes and opportunities available to many people. Your advance ticket purchase will support us to make this possible.
We do have some scholarships available! Please send a note to Eva telling her which class you want to attend.
Get Your Tickets Below.