➤ The kinky sex play you've been wanting for years.
Taught so you can finally create it. 💋💦
GET KINKY is a 6-week live program that teaches you how to say what you want, build a scene around it, and hold what happens when fantasy meets live bodies.
This is communication, leadership, and the practical architecture of hot, weird, deeply connected kink and erotically edgy sex. Come solo or with your partner.
Whether you're exploring BDSM, power exchange, role play, threesomes, sex parties, public play, exhibitionism, or any erotic adventure that pushes your edges, this is the room where you learn to do it on purpose, with integrity.
Starts Wednesday, October 14
Taught so you can finally create it. 💋💦
GET KINKY is a 6-week live program that teaches you how to say what you want, build a scene around it, and hold what happens when fantasy meets live bodies.
This is communication, leadership, and the practical architecture of hot, weird, deeply connected kink and erotically edgy sex. Come solo or with your partner.
Whether you're exploring BDSM, power exchange, role play, threesomes, sex parties, public play, exhibitionism, or any erotic adventure that pushes your edges, this is the room where you learn to do it on purpose, with integrity.
Starts Wednesday, October 14
WHERE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW
Maybe you've been reading about this for years.
Late at night. Phone tilted away. Articles, forums, that one book with the cover you hid in a drawer. You've been circling this thing, building a private library of wanting, waiting for the right moment to do something about it.
Maybe you said it out loud to your partner, and because they love you and trust you, they said, “Okay.” That word is holding a lot right now. Curiosity. Nerves. A very active imagination about what "kinky" is supposed to mean. Maybe some fear that saying yes to this means saying yes to everything.
Maybe you and your partner have great sex already, and in the heat of the moment, you do kinky things – spank, bite, talk very dirty, verbalize fantasies, slip into role play – and it makes the sex so effing hot. But since you don’t talk about it explicitly outside the bedroom, the play never goes any farther than a few hot minutes.
Or maybe you've said something, but you're tiptoeing. You don't want to pressure. You don't want to push. So you hint. You soften. You leave it vague. And your partner can't get into your vision because you haven't actually shared it fully. Not because you don't want to. Because you don't know how to say it clearly without it feeling like a demand.
Or maybe you're on your own. You know what you want. You've known for a while. But you want to learn erotic leadership skills before you bring them to a relationship, a play partner, a scene. You want to show up knowing what you're doing, not fumbling through someone else's body hoping instinct hides inexperience.
Or maybe you've tried to "spice things up." You bought the book. You read the list. You tried one or two things that a magazine or an Instagram post recommended. And it felt like a costume, a generic catchall solution, and not connected to what you actually want. You need structure to fill in and build your own spicy menu, not just mimic someone else’s advice.
Either way, you're standing at the front door of a room nobody ever taught you how to enter. Up until now, you’ve been curious, cautious, or accidental.
This is where you learn to be consciously, deeply kinky.
This is the course.
Maybe you've been reading about this for years.
Late at night. Phone tilted away. Articles, forums, that one book with the cover you hid in a drawer. You've been circling this thing, building a private library of wanting, waiting for the right moment to do something about it.
Maybe you said it out loud to your partner, and because they love you and trust you, they said, “Okay.” That word is holding a lot right now. Curiosity. Nerves. A very active imagination about what "kinky" is supposed to mean. Maybe some fear that saying yes to this means saying yes to everything.
Maybe you and your partner have great sex already, and in the heat of the moment, you do kinky things – spank, bite, talk very dirty, verbalize fantasies, slip into role play – and it makes the sex so effing hot. But since you don’t talk about it explicitly outside the bedroom, the play never goes any farther than a few hot minutes.
Or maybe you've said something, but you're tiptoeing. You don't want to pressure. You don't want to push. So you hint. You soften. You leave it vague. And your partner can't get into your vision because you haven't actually shared it fully. Not because you don't want to. Because you don't know how to say it clearly without it feeling like a demand.
Or maybe you're on your own. You know what you want. You've known for a while. But you want to learn erotic leadership skills before you bring them to a relationship, a play partner, a scene. You want to show up knowing what you're doing, not fumbling through someone else's body hoping instinct hides inexperience.
Or maybe you've tried to "spice things up." You bought the book. You read the list. You tried one or two things that a magazine or an Instagram post recommended. And it felt like a costume, a generic catchall solution, and not connected to what you actually want. You need structure to fill in and build your own spicy menu, not just mimic someone else’s advice.
Either way, you're standing at the front door of a room nobody ever taught you how to enter. Up until now, you’ve been curious, cautious, or accidental.
This is where you learn to be consciously, deeply kinky.
This is the course.
You already know what you want.
Now learn what to do with it.
Now learn what to do with it.
➤ Kink is a Skill
Nobody is born knowing how to hold a flogger.
Nobody is born knowing how to say "slower, softer, more" in the middle of a scene without the whole thing deflating. Nobody is born knowing how to move from folding laundry to commanding the bedroom in one evening, or how to negotiate a threesome so everyone gets heard and royally fucked, or what to do when someone starts whole-body crying, and they want to keep going, or how to end a scene so everybody lands soft, or what to do when the roleplay collapses into giggles.
Whether your edge is BDSM, power exchange, public play, partner swapping, or something you haven't named yet: the skills are the same. Desire, negotiation, leadership, repair.
These are skills. Learnable, practicable, improvable skills.
Twenty-plus years into my own kinky life, these are still the exact skills I use. If I started a brand-new relationship tomorrow, I would not start with a toy catalog. I would start here: desire, negotiation, leadership, repair.
Structure. Scaffolding. To say what you want clearly enough that the person you're with can actually say yes to it. Not hinting or hoping they read your mind. Not tiptoeing so carefully that your desire becomes invisible.
These are the skills that hold you while you get braver.
Nobody is born knowing how to hold a flogger.
Nobody is born knowing how to say "slower, softer, more" in the middle of a scene without the whole thing deflating. Nobody is born knowing how to move from folding laundry to commanding the bedroom in one evening, or how to negotiate a threesome so everyone gets heard and royally fucked, or what to do when someone starts whole-body crying, and they want to keep going, or how to end a scene so everybody lands soft, or what to do when the roleplay collapses into giggles.
Whether your edge is BDSM, power exchange, public play, partner swapping, or something you haven't named yet: the skills are the same. Desire, negotiation, leadership, repair.
These are skills. Learnable, practicable, improvable skills.
Twenty-plus years into my own kinky life, these are still the exact skills I use. If I started a brand-new relationship tomorrow, I would not start with a toy catalog. I would start here: desire, negotiation, leadership, repair.
Structure. Scaffolding. To say what you want clearly enough that the person you're with can actually say yes to it. Not hinting or hoping they read your mind. Not tiptoeing so carefully that your desire becomes invisible.
These are the skills that hold you while you get braver.
WHAT THIS ACTUALLY IS
GET KINKY: a 6-week live erotic communications and leadership program.
GET KINKY: a 6-week live erotic communications and leadership program.
- Starts Wednesday, October 14
- Wednesdays at 7:00 PM CST. 90 minutes per session.
- Live teaching + practice assignments you do on your own or with your partner, in private
- Built with the Sexual Desires and Limits Inventory Guide, my core tool for turning "I don't know what I want" into a map
- $500 for individuals, $750 for couples
- No experience required. No dungeon required. No community entry exam. No partner required. Just you, your curiosity, and a willingness to push your edges, with integrity.
- One skill per week. Digestible, sequential, and designed so you're never drowning in information. You learn it, you practice it, you come back.
SIX WEEKS, SIX SKILLS
Week 1: Desires. The full Sexual Desires and Limits Inventory: what's on the table, what's not, your yes zone, your no zone, your maybe zone, your "I had no idea that was even a category" zone. You'll build a map of what you want, what you don't, and what you're curious about. This is the foundation everything else sits on. You don't skip it. You speak your desires without apologizing or shrinking.
Week 2: Negotiations and Agreements. This is where you build the container together. How to take your map of desires and limits into a conversation with another person. Name your fears without losing the erotic energy. Hear someone else's limits without taking them personally. Find the common ground for connection and play. Build agreements that are specific enough to hold and flexible enough to breathe.
Week 3: Scene Design. Everything in the room is a choice, including you. The physical environment: furniture, lighting, tools, toys, clothing, scent. The energetic environment: who you are being in this scene, the tone you set, the role you inhabit. Both are design choices, not accidents. And the opening transition: how you move from the mundane to the erotic, even when the dishwasher is running.
Week 4: Leading and Following for All. Simple in-scene communication that keeps the heat alive. Body-based feedback. How to give it. How to receive it. How to play with it without collapsing.
Week 5: The Freak-Out Plan. What to do when someone gets nervous, wants to stop, or has a trauma response. Levels, signs, agreements, repair. You will know, before anything ever happens, exactly what to do.
Week 6: Endings, Aftercare, and Between-Scene Care. Closing a scene so everybody comes back home to their body. What aftercare actually is, what YOURS actually is, and the care that happens two, three, four days later that makes it possible to go deeper next time. How to talk about what happened, what worked, and what you want different next time.
Week 1: Desires. The full Sexual Desires and Limits Inventory: what's on the table, what's not, your yes zone, your no zone, your maybe zone, your "I had no idea that was even a category" zone. You'll build a map of what you want, what you don't, and what you're curious about. This is the foundation everything else sits on. You don't skip it. You speak your desires without apologizing or shrinking.
Week 2: Negotiations and Agreements. This is where you build the container together. How to take your map of desires and limits into a conversation with another person. Name your fears without losing the erotic energy. Hear someone else's limits without taking them personally. Find the common ground for connection and play. Build agreements that are specific enough to hold and flexible enough to breathe.
Week 3: Scene Design. Everything in the room is a choice, including you. The physical environment: furniture, lighting, tools, toys, clothing, scent. The energetic environment: who you are being in this scene, the tone you set, the role you inhabit. Both are design choices, not accidents. And the opening transition: how you move from the mundane to the erotic, even when the dishwasher is running.
Week 4: Leading and Following for All. Simple in-scene communication that keeps the heat alive. Body-based feedback. How to give it. How to receive it. How to play with it without collapsing.
Week 5: The Freak-Out Plan. What to do when someone gets nervous, wants to stop, or has a trauma response. Levels, signs, agreements, repair. You will know, before anything ever happens, exactly what to do.
Week 6: Endings, Aftercare, and Between-Scene Care. Closing a scene so everybody comes back home to their body. What aftercare actually is, what YOURS actually is, and the care that happens two, three, four days later that makes it possible to go deeper next time. How to talk about what happened, what worked, and what you want different next time.
Six weeks. Six skills.
The rest is practice.
The rest is practice.
WHAT THIS IS NOT (so we're not wasting your time)
This is not a lifestyle exam. There is no minimum weirdness requirement and no maximum either.
This is not me handing you a costume and a script. Your desires stay yours. I teach the architecture; you build the house you actually want to live in.
This is not therapy, and it is not a place where anyone will treat your desires as symptoms. Kink is not a pathology. Wanting to be held down by the person you trust most is not a disorder. It's a Tuesday.
This is not "spice up your sex life" with a list of 50 things to try that have nothing to do with where you're at, who you are, or what you actually want. Generic spice is someone else's menu. This course starts with YOUR desires and builds from there.
And this is not one more 32-second Instagram clip that gives you a vocabulary word and no follow-through. This is the structure to use to follow through.
THIS IS
Permission to explore. Permission to make mistakes. Permission to laugh mid-scene, try again, and get it gloriously, hilariously wrong on the way to getting it right.
That permission is the whole culture of this program.
This is not a lifestyle exam. There is no minimum weirdness requirement and no maximum either.
This is not me handing you a costume and a script. Your desires stay yours. I teach the architecture; you build the house you actually want to live in.
This is not therapy, and it is not a place where anyone will treat your desires as symptoms. Kink is not a pathology. Wanting to be held down by the person you trust most is not a disorder. It's a Tuesday.
This is not "spice up your sex life" with a list of 50 things to try that have nothing to do with where you're at, who you are, or what you actually want. Generic spice is someone else's menu. This course starts with YOUR desires and builds from there.
And this is not one more 32-second Instagram clip that gives you a vocabulary word and no follow-through. This is the structure to use to follow through.
THIS IS
Permission to explore. Permission to make mistakes. Permission to laugh mid-scene, try again, and get it gloriously, hilariously wrong on the way to getting it right.
That permission is the whole culture of this program.
WHO IS THIS FOR (and who it isn't)
This is probably not for you if:
- You know what you want, but you've been tiptoeing around it. You don't want to pressure your partner, so you soften, you hint, and then they can't see what you're actually asking for. You need a way to say it that's clear and kind at the same time. That's a skill, and we teach it.
- You're in a relationship, and you want more heat, more play, more edge. You genuinely like each other. You want to bring this into what you already have, but not with a generic "spice it up" checklist. You want something precise, built from your actual desires, not a magazine's.
- One of you has been researching for years, and the other one just said okay. Both of you are welcome here, at exactly the level you're at.
- You're interested, but you don't know where to start. You want someone to walk you through it: how to plan a scene, how to keep it digestible, how to move step by step instead of drowning in the entire internet's worth of kink information.
- You're single, and you want to learn these skills before you bring them into a partnership, a play relationship, or a scene. You want to show up prepared, not guessing or pretending.
- You're busy. Careers, kids, aging parents, a dog with opinions. You need this taught well one time, not scavenged from 100 workshops.
- You've got a yes/no/maybe list somewhere and no idea what to do when the list meets a live human body.
- You want the rough, the tender, the commanding, the surrendered, and you want the skills to hold all of it.
This is probably not for you if:
- You're looking for a space to play without agreements. That's not edgy; it's dangerous, and I don't support that.
- You're enrolling as a couple, and one of you is being dragged. "Okay," freely given is a doorway. "Fine, whatever" or “I’m only doing this to make you happy” is not. If that's where you are, start smaller. My emails are free, and they're a good place to stand for a while.
THE QUESTION UNDER THE QUESTION
Here's the fear that shows up right alongside the excitement:
What if I open this door and someone cries?
What if the scene is going and going and then something shifts, a memory, a wave, a flood, and someone is suddenly not in the game anymore? What if that ruins it? What if it fucks something up that can't be unfucked?
It's not if. It's when.
Somebody is going to freak out. It doesn't matter how much you've read, how thoroughly you negotiated, how enthusiastically everyone said yes. The moment edgy desire meets a live nervous system, something can shift.
And the domino starts. One person's nervous system amps up the other's. Somebody shuts down. Somebody doesn't know what to say. The scene falls apart. And the silence afterward is where people quietly decide to never try again.
That silence is the death of erotic momentum. Not the freak-out itself. The not knowing what to do with it.
Listen. Bodies have weather. Every body. In vanilla sex, in kinky sex, in a hug that lands wrong on a hard day. The weather is not a verdict on you, your partner, or your desires.
People who last in this don't avoid the weather. They talk about it. They have a plan for it.
That plan has a name in my work, the Freak-Out Plan, and you'll build yours in Week 5. Signs to watch for. Levels to name. Agreements about how to respond when a yellow moment comes. So the scary question stops being "what if it happens" and becomes "I can handle this.”
A freak-out handled well builds more trust than a smooth scene. More intimacy. More willingness to go further next time. The hard moment, held right, is the thing that deepens everything.
That is what safety with teeth looks like.
This is the work.
Here's the fear that shows up right alongside the excitement:
What if I open this door and someone cries?
What if the scene is going and going and then something shifts, a memory, a wave, a flood, and someone is suddenly not in the game anymore? What if that ruins it? What if it fucks something up that can't be unfucked?
It's not if. It's when.
Somebody is going to freak out. It doesn't matter how much you've read, how thoroughly you negotiated, how enthusiastically everyone said yes. The moment edgy desire meets a live nervous system, something can shift.
And the domino starts. One person's nervous system amps up the other's. Somebody shuts down. Somebody doesn't know what to say. The scene falls apart. And the silence afterward is where people quietly decide to never try again.
That silence is the death of erotic momentum. Not the freak-out itself. The not knowing what to do with it.
Listen. Bodies have weather. Every body. In vanilla sex, in kinky sex, in a hug that lands wrong on a hard day. The weather is not a verdict on you, your partner, or your desires.
People who last in this don't avoid the weather. They talk about it. They have a plan for it.
That plan has a name in my work, the Freak-Out Plan, and you'll build yours in Week 5. Signs to watch for. Levels to name. Agreements about how to respond when a yellow moment comes. So the scary question stops being "what if it happens" and becomes "I can handle this.”
A freak-out handled well builds more trust than a smooth scene. More intimacy. More willingness to go further next time. The hard moment, held right, is the thing that deepens everything.
That is what safety with teeth looks like.
This is the work.
A hard moment, held well,
can deepen everything.
can deepen everything.
WHO'S LEADING
I'm Eva Blake. Sex, love, and leadership coach. Certified Sexological Bodyworker and Somatic Sex Educator. Twenty-plus years a kinky person — not twenty years reading about it, twenty years living it, negotiating it, repairing it, and teaching it.
I've spent two decades helping people just like you: high-achieving, over-thinking, deeply loving humans whose sex lives deserve the same intelligence they bring to everything else.
I don't coach. I initiate.
This is sacred work. And it's hot as fuck.
I've spent two decades helping people just like you: high-achieving, over-thinking, deeply loving humans whose sex lives deserve the same intelligence they bring to everything else.
I don't coach. I initiate.
This is sacred work. And it's hot as fuck.
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PRICING AND ENROLLMENT
GET KINKY — 6 weeks, starting Wednesday, October 14
$500 — one of you $750 — both of you ( you can pay in full or in 2 monthly installments)
Bring your partner. The whole point lives between two bodies, and the couple rate exists because I want both of you in the room.
No countdown clock. No fake bonuses expiring at midnight. The real deadline is the real deadline: we begin Wednesday, October 14, and I close the doors when we start because latecomers change the chemistry of a group that's learning to be brave together.
GET KINKY — 6 weeks, starting Wednesday, October 14
$500 — one of you $750 — both of you ( you can pay in full or in 2 monthly installments)
Bring your partner. The whole point lives between two bodies, and the couple rate exists because I want both of you in the room.
No countdown clock. No fake bonuses expiring at midnight. The real deadline is the real deadline: we begin Wednesday, October 14, and I close the doors when we start because latecomers change the chemistry of a group that's learning to be brave together.
THE DEEPER DOOR
For three couples — and only three — there's a further room.
The Get Kinky Couples Retreat: two and a half days with me, in person, in Houston, one weekend in January. The live program is the foundation. The retreat is where it becomes your hands, your ropes, your scene, with an expert three feet away the first time you try the thing you've been dreaming about.
$3,000 per couple, and it includes this entire online program.
It's interview-gated because three couples means I curate who's in the room.
For three couples — and only three — there's a further room.
The Get Kinky Couples Retreat: two and a half days with me, in person, in Houston, one weekend in January. The live program is the foundation. The retreat is where it becomes your hands, your ropes, your scene, with an expert three feet away the first time you try the thing you've been dreaming about.
$3,000 per couple, and it includes this entire online program.
It's interview-gated because three couples means I curate who's in the room.
LOGISTICS QUESTIONS
When are the live sessions? Wednesdays at 7:00 PM CST. 90 minutes. Six consecutive weeks starting October 14
Can I enroll solo? Yes. This course is built for individuals and couples. You'll learn the same skills whether you're bringing them into an existing relationship or preparing for a future one.
If we're a couple, do we both need to attend live? Both of you will benefit by being in the room together. And you’ll have access to recordings.
Is this explicit? It's frank, adult, and specific. It is education, not performance. You will never be asked to share anything on camera or in the group you don't choose to share.
Is our privacy protected? Yes. This is a confidential space. What's said here stays here, and that agreement is explicit and enforced.
What if I've literally never done anything kinky? Then you're the exact person this was built for. Beginners aren't a tolerated edge case here. They're the design spec.
What if I want this but I'm afraid of pushing my partner? That fear is one of the most common things I hear. Week 1 exists because of you. You'll learn how to name your desire in a way that's an invitation, not a demand. Clear is not the same as pushy. Vague is not the same as kind.
We've tried "spicing things up" before, and it felt forced. How is this different? Because this doesn't start with a list of activities. It starts with what you actually want. The inventory work in Week 2 maps YOUR desires, not someone else's suggestions. Everything you build after that comes from that map. That's why it doesn't feel like a costume.
When are the live sessions? Wednesdays at 7:00 PM CST. 90 minutes. Six consecutive weeks starting October 14
Can I enroll solo? Yes. This course is built for individuals and couples. You'll learn the same skills whether you're bringing them into an existing relationship or preparing for a future one.
If we're a couple, do we both need to attend live? Both of you will benefit by being in the room together. And you’ll have access to recordings.
Is this explicit? It's frank, adult, and specific. It is education, not performance. You will never be asked to share anything on camera or in the group you don't choose to share.
Is our privacy protected? Yes. This is a confidential space. What's said here stays here, and that agreement is explicit and enforced.
What if I've literally never done anything kinky? Then you're the exact person this was built for. Beginners aren't a tolerated edge case here. They're the design spec.
What if I want this but I'm afraid of pushing my partner? That fear is one of the most common things I hear. Week 1 exists because of you. You'll learn how to name your desire in a way that's an invitation, not a demand. Clear is not the same as pushy. Vague is not the same as kind.
We've tried "spicing things up" before, and it felt forced. How is this different? Because this doesn't start with a list of activities. It starts with what you actually want. The inventory work in Week 2 maps YOUR desires, not someone else's suggestions. Everything you build after that comes from that map. That's why it doesn't feel like a costume.
Somewhere inside you there's a desire that's been waiting years for structure.
Six weeks from October 14, it could be a practice. A language. A scene you built, executed, laughed through, repaired, and want again.
Desire is a compass. This is where you learn to follow it.
Enroll now — $500 solo / $750 per couple. We start October 14.
Six weeks from October 14, it could be a practice. A language. A scene you built, executed, laughed through, repaired, and want again.
Desire is a compass. This is where you learn to follow it.
Enroll now — $500 solo / $750 per couple. We start October 14.
