July 16th, 1 pm - 5 pm
"I really liked your Boundaries class a whole lot. The exercises were so easy to understand and do, and such a great metaphor for what happens in relationship." P.D.
If you struggle setting and maintaining your boundaries or if you're not really sure what the hell a boundary looks and feels like, this is for you.
If you get triggered in relationship, in intimate or erotic moments, and don't know what to do to stop, slow down, or change direction, this is also for you.
If you worry that communicating a limit you have with someone you care for will ruin the relationship, this is the place for you.
It can be real hard to find your center, maintain your sense of self, and own your power in the midst of worrying about someone's reaction to your authentic needs and desires.
It can be real hard to stand your ground in relationships, with your boss or co-workers, with your friends, family, or lovers when you feel like you have to take care of their reaction to your needs.
And if you're feeling any or all of these things, it can be real fucking difficult or feel damn near impossible to claim your space with your voice or your body and feel secure in who you are in each of your moments.
I GET IT!
I know what its like to struggle setting and maintaining boundaries, to know what is a hard edge and what is mutable. I know the challenges and heartache that comes with stepping over my own needs to be present for someone else's desires. Read more about Eva Blake here.
Body Basics for Bitchin' Boundaries is a 1/2 day class to share with you some of the most useful body-based, solo & interpersonal exercises and strategies to create security and stability for your best self.
Boundaries are crucial, necessary parts of the human enterprise.
What do I mean by "bitchin'?" I mean, stable, solid, secure, awesome, self-regulated, and fully owned by you.
Moving from fear of setting and owning your limits is vital to creating authentic, grounded relationships where you are seen and heard, understood and safe to be your most badass self.
Practices are designed to support your personal power, knowing and listening to your body and intuition, using your voice, setting and maintaining your boundaries in the midst of mystery, staying connected to yourself and others, and celebrating your inherent brilliance.
Some exercises are solo.
Some are in pairs or triads.
Some exercises have a touch option. Some do not.
You always have a choice.
I will explain the exercises before inviting you to do them.
This is a boundary practicing class, so you are encouraged to practice your yes and no and maybe, in all your awkwardness, power, shakiness, and stability. The exercises are specifically designed to help you in this process.
My teaching format is three fold:
PROMPT: Teach you the theory and exercise.
PRACTICE: Do the exercise.
PROCESS: Debrief and discuss your experience of the exercise.
If this resonates with you, you are welcome here.
This class is SLIDING SCALE: $45 - $125
Please use the "donate" button below to enter your own amount in the scale named.
You must "buy" individual tickets separately. Please include the name you want to be called.
There is room for 16 people.
Where: Desire Studio : 4810 NE Garfield Ave. Portland, Oregon
The work here is a trauma-informed, consent driven, intersectional,
body & sex- positive, queer.
About Eva Blake:
I've been working with feminists, activists, artists, entrepreneurs, and executive leaders who are tired of feeling like a failure in their sex life and who are ready to trust their bodies, maximize their pleasure, and create the sexually satisfied life they deserve.
The vast majority of the people I have served over the last 10 years are survivors of interpersonal violence. While my primary work is on showing and guiding people into liberating their whole self in their erotic moments, I believe that every person is the expert on their experience. I strive to meet folks where they are, celebrate them as they are, and support them as they step into their next phase of becoming.
I have taught these foundational practices to groups as large as 200 and in private 1:1 coaching.
I am a queer kinky femme and survivor.
"WOAH. Your class hasn't just shifted my perspectives, but my awareness on a holistic level. Your class has moved my posture, my relationships, my ability to maintain delusions of contentment when it just so is not happening. I am a more stable, more fiercely and easily protective, more authentically caring and sensual person.
Boundaries are apparently really important. But before, they were just this idea based on other ideas. Boundaries were some figment that I exerted with force because life wasn't matching my expectations- expectations built from books, conversations, therapy, life experience- and were inherently ungrounded. The story went, "One day, with enough force and pressure and accumulated insight, the fruits of this work will grow. It will make sense. It will feel easy. It will give me the life that I want, someday." And then, you brought it into the relational body. You brought me into my posture, into my breathing, into my body as it relates to myself and, so importantly, others and space.
It not longer feels like, "some day..." It feels like whenever I want to slow down, whenever I notice my back seizing up, or my breath living uncomfortably in my body, or my posture hyperextended. It feels attainable, and not ideological but MINE.
My relationships have ALL undergone major reconstruction. And whether it's due to any specific factor, I have felt more equipped and resilient having brought your insight into my body. The literal only downside is how sore my body can get from "bad" postures, or just from having more easeful strong postures so much more of the time.
At first, it was almost scary. The shift was so palpable, so quickly. The ownership of my body, my time, my ideals, my desires, my passions, have quieted so many voices in my head. My sexuality has essentially returned with so much fullness, it's almost like I've never been harmed."
"Eva, as a leader and facilitator, I found you to be open, inviting, engaging and very knowledgeable. You offered support and compassion to everyone; allowing and making space for people to be seen and heard as they choose. And, supporting/making space for a variety of coping abilities.
The workshop was very well organized. There was a lot of information to digest. I really appreciated learning and being reminded of the actual biology and neurological science/study of how our bodies express and try to cope with our feelings and what is in our mind. I appreciated your physical demonstration of explaining the words. Example...clearly showing with your own body posture how certain emotion manifests physically.
The physical location/space for the workshop was inviting, comfortable, and felt safe."