They told us that sex is a sin, that it must be done in private, with only one person in one way. They told us to seek stability, routine, and dependable child-rearing. They told us to save ourselves for marriage. That our sex is for someone else.
Then they told us we can have transcendence, spontaneity, and ecstasy. That we can have love and passion and romance. They told us that sex can be casual and fun.
They told us that we caused our own assault. That we brought it on ourselves. That we are to blame when someone else hurts us.
These cultural narratives have relegated the subject of sexuality and intimate relating into dark rooms behind the closed doors of shame and confusion.
It is no wonder most of us struggle in this arena.
And struggle hard.
I did. for many years. I shut-down and turned off my sexuality. I stayed in relationships that not only did not serve my highest vision of well being and happiness for myself, but were incredibly destructive and abusive.
I have hidden out and played small. I have put others before me so much so that I have lost myself. I have done emotional, mental, and spiritual back flips to please another while simultaneously denying my own deservingness of that level of dedication to my own pleasure and happiness and fulfillment.
Most people want to know how to have better sex by learning the best tips and trick for how to move their bodies, or how to communicate with their partner, or how to provide a good experience for their partner so their partner will keep coming back for more sex.
What I’ve learned over the last 10 years of practice, epic failure, and deep investigation is that the things we do with our bodies constitute just one single piece of the nuanced, overlapping, and interlocking puzzle of sex.
Living in America, we don't get solid, sex-positive education, guidance in creating authentic relationships, practices to direct our bodies for pleasure, tools to understand the depths of our heart, or how to really organize our thoughts and beliefs to create and sustain the pleasure and passion we crave in our life.
The Liberating Desire Live Bootcamp is designed to offer you a structured formula for exploring each of these areas of expression and experience that impact and influence your success in creating the life of sexual satisfaction you deserve.
In this structure, I will show you how all the component parts interact with each other while giving you sophisticated tools and practices for you to enhance your strengths, illuminate places places for personal growth, and show you how you can go even further.
Day 3: Integrate Your Intellect to Navigate the World
"I experience an expansiveness toward sexuality in my body now. I feel more playful, flirty, and frisky! I am able to sit through the uncomfortable feelings that come up around sex and be curious about what is on the other side, and what they have to teach me. [Eva] really helped me to remove the major road blocks in my path to pleasure and taught me how to deal with more that will undoubtedly appear." Nancy
"Simply put, Eva is amazing. She created an atmosphere where exploration of my body and my desires and my fears was both exhilarating and sacred. Her presence always put me at ease throughout the sessions, no matter how tender the material was that we were covering." David
1. What if I’m already having good sex? How would this help me?
If you’re already having good sex now, AWESOME! I love this! AND, I want it to continue. I want you to be able to sustain your good sex, your great communication, and your capacity to evolve and change over time.
I know what its like to feel deeply connected to myself and my partner one year (or two or three) and then experience shift. Jobs change, the economy tanks, parents pass away, friends leave, or a tree falls in the forest, and that sends a ripple through your body, heart, mind, and connection to your partner.
What I have found is that consistently great sex and fluid interactions this year does not automatically translate to amazing sex and deep, fulfilling connection over the course of a lifetime. We have to work at it. We have to put effort into our relationship, with ourselves and each other.
The Liberating Desire Live Bootcamp is designed to enhance what you’ve already got and support you for the inevitable curve balls and evolutions of life.
2. What if I don’t have a partner? Will this be relevant to me?
YES! The Live Bootcamp will be incredibly helpful for you to develop crystal clarity in what you want for yourself — in pleasure, in sex, in dating, or in a committed relationship (monogamous or otherwise). In fact, the structures provided here at the Bootcamp can serve you by shining a light on the obstacles that have blocked you in the past from creating or sustaining a relationship that is inspiring and fulfilling.
3. Is this event a conference where I can pick and choose which day to attend?
Liberating Desire Live Bootcamp is designed for all the material to compliment and build on the previous pieces of teaching and practice. So, yes, your seat at the Bootcamp is for the entirety of the event. If you miss registration on Friday, you will not be able to attend for Saturday or Sunday.
I want you to get the most from this experience and get the most you can from your own life. If you pick and choose to attend or skip any parts of this Bootcamp weekend, you risk missing the very thing you need to take your next big leap forward in creating the sexually satisfied life you deserve.
4. Are we going to get naked? Will there be sex? Will people be touching each other?
The Liberating Desire Live Bootcamp is a clothes-on, hands-on experiential event.
That means that we will be in a learning environment where I will teach on a variety of mind, body, and heart subjects where you will use your mind, body, and heart in a communal learning environment.
We will move our bodies, we will integrate information with our mind, we will explore our hearts. We will interact with each other throughout the weekend.
The language of the Bootcamp, while geared to show you how you can create a sexually satisfied life, is sexually suggestive, rather than sexually explicit. While the movement or exercises you will do with your body lives in the PG-13 range.
You will want to bring a yoga mat or blanket to sit or lay on the floor with.
5. Can I bring my partner?
Yes, Please! When you and your partner do this work together, you create a common language that you can refer back to again and again over time. This common language and shared practice is part of what creates a solid foundation for sustaining great sex, passion, and love over time and through the bumps and challenges of life.
Just imagine what it could be like if you and your partner both committed to this full weekend together where you get to really focus on building a shared experience designed to infuse your relating with more capacity for pleasure, passion, and connection. Imagine what it might be like when you can stop arguing over miscommunications or stressing about what your partner meant with their words when you have a common foundation to start from and return back to.
6. Where is the event?
Welcome to Desire Studio, my private studio office space in NE Portland. This is the place where I teach classes, work privately with my VIP clients, have laughs, and make magic for you.
The exact location and address will be sent to you upon your registration.
"Eva was so professional which allowed all the participants to feel comfortable with asking ?'s, making comments and participating. She covered sensitive material in a comprehensive way and allowed for practice time to solidify the concepts. The candor alongside professionalism that put me [and my partner] at ease, to explore and be safe in your environ." - Marty
"Eva, for you to spread love ~ the way you do, is about the most healing practice I've attended (for me personally) in terms of getting in touch with myself, and my partner. As I reflected on it, you quickly became one of the most admired and important practitioners, I've met, thank you." - AnneMarie
"This workshop was incredible. We enjoyed it thoroughly. Eva's knowledge and exceptional teaching skills were very evident throughout the weekend. Being with other couples in so many different places was oddly comforting. Heck, even lunch was awesome. Thank you so much for sharing your craft!" - Mike